Sorry, Kids…
Sometimes you need to share secrets. Not someone else’s secrets, but your own.
Oh, not EVERY secret and certainly not to EVERYONE.
(For example, my children simply do not need to know that the $4.00 chocolate cream pie the HH and I brought home for them and put on the middle shelf of the refrigerator last night was a red herring to keep them from finding the $17.00, Cheesecake Factory, white chocolate raspberry cheesecake we hid in the veggie drawer.)
Some secrets, however, need to be let out: secret sins, secret fears and even secret hopes and desires.
I recently finished the novel The Memory Keeper’s Daughter by Kim Edwards. So often secular fiction shouts out biblical principles, even though that might not be the author’s intent. In this book, a loving, caring husband kept a secret from his wife. Like many, he rationalized it was “for her own good” and that he was protecting her from a deeper hurt. But as the story unfolds, his secret divides and separates and creates invisible walls. It prevents relationships from prospering. That is what secrets – epsecially secret sins – do.
Proverbs 28:13 says He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, But he who confesses and forsakes them will find compassion.
Sometimes folks need help with the “forsake them” bit.
And that only comes when we share, when we acknowledge to someone else.
Way back when I first, hesitantly and somewhat unwillingly, shared my story about my husbands pornography addictiion, way back before I had 2,000 acknowledged blog followers, I was totally blown away by the responses I received. It seems pornography is a modern day Black Death Plague, leaving few unscathed in some way. I heard from singles and married folks, teenagers and folks in their forties and fifties. I heard from pastors and unbelievers. And I was very surprised by the number of women who are the ones actually caught up in the addiction themselves. I heard from those who have lost everything (marriage, ministry and hope) and those who emerged victorious. I no longer felt alone. And I no longer had to go it alone. And the enemy was defeated.
And they have defeated him because of the blood of the Lamb and because of their testimony. And they were not afraid to die. Revelation 12:11
Grateful for this wonderful life,
Marie with a 🙂
I think you write beautifully!!
You are a REAL writer!! You allow God to use you as His vessel and the words inspire!
I grew up atheist in Germany, totally oblivious to morals. I praise God I have no diseases or other detrimental crosses to bear because of it, but that is only by HIS GRACE. Pornography is more dangerous than drugs, alcohol or any other harmful substance, because you take it with you EVERYWHERE you go in your head and Satan can defeat you at will. Unlike a substance, which you have to GO and buy and hence have a little time to reconsider your actions, pornography pops right in you head, even when you are not thinking any”bad” thoughts at all.
Fueled by hormones and other natural intrinsic forces it is almost impossible to stop, unless God intervenes.
We have to be aware to LOVE the sinner, encourage them to seek help and pray for them to take captive every thought to the obedience of Christ.